This morning during my quiet time I had a chance to reflect on Pain, Perception and Forgiveness.
I was brought back to a time in my life when something I said was taken out of context and someone I loved was hurt.
After that person shared with me that what I said caused them pain (which by the way took a great amount of courage to put their vulnerability out there) I got angry.
I was furious with them because what I said was not mean, never meant to be taken as mean spirited and was totally exaggerated on their part.
Their perception was clearly off by a mile.
But what I realized later was that my anger was a byproduct of embarrassment. I felt some shame for having harmed the spirit of someone I cared about whether it was intentional on my part or not.
Perception is truth.
I perceived that was I spoke was harmless.
Their perception was different and they were offended.
I stopped….In my emotional tracks and listened to my heart.
I hurt someone I loved and the only thing I could do was ask for their forgiveness.
It didn’t matter who was right or wrong.
What mattered was that I hurt another human being.
And today I know, at my core, if I ever again speak a word or flash a look that brings harm to another person’s spirit, I will again ask for their forgiveness.
For it is in asking for forgiveness relationships are restored and the hearts are mended.